Where does it end?

March 31, 2008

This week is going to be a busy one, but every week is busy.  That’s just the way life is working out, and that’s okay.  I like being busy with stuff as long as it’s stuff I like to do.

I’ve seriously been thinking about my blogging and my presence in web 2.0.  It’s sort of an expanding universe which has been cool, but also has taken some work to hold together and keep straight.  I’m into a lot of things and am interested in getting into even more things.

I’ve finally caught up on all the episodes of Ichannel, which has led me to thinking about this blog.  In some ways, it has resembled what’s taken place with ‘I’ only not quite so instantaneously.  At times I get all sorts of advice, some of it useful, some witty and some preachy and some snarky.  But it has generally been helpful and therapeutic.  It has enabled me to process and work a lot of things out.  I’m still a long way from having it all figured out or having it all worked out.  Not by a long shot.  Spending more time with my wife and talking and spending time together means spending a lot less time with YOU!  I think most of you get that, on some level, and you’re a pretty understanding bunch that way.  Afterall, it has been a story that has gotten some people sort of addicted to it!

And then it sort of popped into my head: when does it end?  I suppose I can just keep putting stuff up here as long as I have stuff to say (and it seems like I’ll always have to have this sort of outlet).  But I’m wondering how much longer my story lines can keep dragging on.   If my marriage gets half the distance I wanted when I started blogging, it will seriously cut down on the drama ’round here.  Like I say, I’ve miles to go but I’ve just wondered what a good ending for a blog like mine would be.  Would I just mysteriously go doark?  Say a few goodbyes and walk away?   Have a countdown and a party?

There’s no telling how it ends.

Which leads me to one more piece of unfinished business: Xi’s obnoxious meme.  I think the above sentence meets the 6 word criteria, but I’m too lazy to tag anyone else.

Back to the topic: I’m just musing here and there are still things that need to be played out around here as far as my own life/storyline.  I just started thinking about it after watching i:episode 34 and wondering how he was going to get out of the television/alternate universe.  Or maybe he wouldn’t want to leave.  In anycase, he’s finally got some good drama to make it a good story for his audience/participants.

Something may yet happen around here to make it worth reading.  It’s hard to believe some of you have been sticking ’round here as long as you have!

Anyway, thanks for watching/reading!

D.

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Counseling, a Meme and 195.4

November 10, 2007

I’ll just weigh in a day or two early and then go get something to eat!LOL!

2amsomewhere recently did a purpose driven meme and tagged me with it. Actually, I was already on my way over off the link before I saw I’d been tagged. It’s a survey put on by some of his friends at the Schnarch Center about relationships and sex. The purpose of this is to normalize their results and to test it, so there aren’t any results to be gotten, unlike the little quizzes in my “About” page. However it does make a body think about what they think.

In order to make sure that these two instruments are reliable and valid with a large and diverse population, we would greatly appreciate it if you would cut and paste the link on to your website or forward it to your friends. We want a diverse population in terms of ethnicity, religion, sexual orientation, age and gender!

So these are 2am’s rules:

  1. Take the survey described above.
  2. Create a blog posting announcing the survey.
  3. Tag seven other bloggers to take the survey by listing them in your post and contacting them by either e-mail or blog comment.

Only one more thing to do, which is #3. Seven seems like a high number to me, but let me see if I can find the 7:

  1. Christian Husband
  2. FTN
  3. Confused Husband
  4. Xi Summit
  5. Tajalude
  6. Hazel
  7. Mu Ling

Hey, that wasn’t as hard as I thought it would be! I’m sort of worried about the results being all skewed and dysfunctional due to the nature of my blogroll, though.

And finally, just wanted to share something I found on Rod Smith’s blog that was enlightening. When Will Counseling work Best? When will it not?… is a pretty fair and balanced treatment of the subject. Lot’s of you have weighed in, and considering the results of my last post I thought a fair treatment of the subject was in order. I think the biggest obstacle at the present time is …well… time. If I was really sick and injured, I would go to see a doctor. But I’d have to really be sick or injured. I’ve got sore ankles and knees and sometimes get the sniffles, but I’m not seeing anyone.

So that must mean that things in my relationship aren’t bad enough. Yet.

Yeah, that pretty much sums things up. I mean if they were all that bad I would more seriously be weighing the therapist/attorney options. But Arwyn has become a better roommate than she was a year ago. There is that much progress, which is better than none at all. The house isn’t all run down when I come home and it is manageable enough that I can help out when needed. It’s easier to cook in a clean kitchen. We are talking better about money. Every month, we are going over her credit card balances and we each write out checks. We probably need to expand that conversation a bit more about other expenses but there is movement. The sex thing is just a big, huge boil that irritates everything else. I’m not confronting her at all because while I’m attracted to her physically I’m not up for the “mercy fuck.” I was hoping my weight loss would help lessen the “mercy” part of it for her, so she might actually want to do it more. Or maybe I haven’t lost enough, yet.

D.

I’m in the process of properly tagging everyone by commenting on their blogs, so if I haven’t gotten to you yet, consider yourself warned!

[Now I know why I don’t do more comments and tags…blogspot word verification SUCKS!  I ALWAYS end up having to type goofy crap out several times!] 


Trueself’s Tag

August 14, 2007

Trueself tagged me invited me to do this thing and since I haven’t done one of these in forever I thought I would.

It’s very simple. When this is passed on to you, copy the whole thing, skim the list and put a * star beside those that you like. (Check out especially the * starred ones.)Add the next number (1. 2. 3. 4. 5., etc.) and write your own blogging tip for other bloggers. Try to make your tip general. After that, tag 10 other people. Link love some friends! Just think– if 10 people start this, the 10 people pass it onto another 10 people, you have 100 links already!

1. Look, read, and learn. *****-http://www.neonscent.com/
2. Be, EXCELLENT to each other. *****-http://www.bushmackel.com/
3. Don’t let money change ya! ****-http://www.therandomforest.info/
4. Always reply to your comments.**-http://chattiekat.com/
5. Develop your own “voice” don’t “borrow” someone else’s***-Mizmouthy
6. Always avoid awesomely annoying and aggravating alliteration. Bunny
7. Write for yourself not for your audience. *Trueself

8. HNT pics almost always increase your readership if you’re a female.  For us middle-aged guys…eh, not so much. Digger Jones

Well that’s the end of the line on this one, for me.  If any of you want to send on unsolicited advice to fellow bloggers, pick this puppy up and give it a good home!

It’s always flattering to be linked up by other bloggers, tho, which is why I have actually developed my own meme that I’m going to be starting that is loads more fun and includes loads more links to y’all.  So even if the tagged victims participants decide not to pass it on, I’ll have had a bit of fun.  And really, what else is this blogging lark supposed to be?

D.


The End of the Blog

February 3, 2006

02/02/2006

Thursday

Wow! I'm pretty impressed with what folks are doing with the "Reality" meme! I had no idea. Really.

Okay, my 5 are not nearly as exciting or entertaining as others. Not even close. But I'll do my best…

5 annoying habits I have/could learn to live with.

1.) Farting. Arwyn is kind of a fart machine around the house. While is ceased to be cute around 7 years ago, I'm okay with it. She fits in with the whole Jones family that way.

2.) Talking on and on without ever getting to the intended point. You know how it goes when someone is talking about being robbed in NYC and…you ever been to NY? People talk funny there…anyway, about being robbed…they have the tastiest bagels in NY. You think Gulliani will run for president? I'm actually hoping Condi will run, because I think she's cute. Not hard to be cuter than Hillary, although I thought she was sort of cute during Bill's first run. Bill doesn't inhale, he just sucks! Um..what was the question?

3.) Grass seed for my birthday. Yep, that one is a true. Sex would have compensated for that horrible gaffe. Or at least some electronic gadget. Or even a new waffle maker.

4.) Hypochondria – I wonder; do they have a pill for that?

5.) Chronic lateness and slowness. I'm kind of quick about most things and hate being late. This is something that Arwyn says she dislikes, but she is always late! She also says she dislikes shopping but spends inordinate sums of time on it. Being late is actually a consequence of being a perfectionist of a sort. While I try to balance quality and speed, Arwyn ignores the speed bit.

The End of the Blog

No, not the end of MY blog. But others have flickered out. Square1 recently gave us a swan song, followed closely by Tajalude. Geoffery, Chelsea and Leela have all toyed with pulling down their blogs. Lizzi is on the verge of timing out. Chris took a hiatus and returned with a much more gutless version of his blog. As did Bliatz with her more reserved public effort since she nearly had to pull hers all down.. Even Prison Pete has been threatened with extinction at the hands of his mysterious Editor. NSN is barely hanging on. Artful Dodger nearly went up in flames due to evil doings.

Anyone else? These are just folks on my blogroll, which I've nicknamed the blogzapper because adding someone to it seems to be the quickest way to spell a blogger's demise. I don't like having to change and adjust it. I have 3x as many RSS reads as I do folks on my blogroll, and I don't notice as many going down there.

I pulled Sensual Dementia down last summer, so it's hard to be too critical. But every one that goes down represents a loss of a sort. Those spots on the right are hard-won and when one falls it lessens my own story to some extent. But these things happen. It's just a bit sad when they do.

D.


Getting Real

February 1, 2006

Special thanks to those who answered the last mem. Especially Emily, Rob and Broccolieater. They've provided ample material for me to ruminate on. In the meantime…

Non-deal breaking faults

The "Perfect Partner" meme that is currently making the rounds got me thinking: Is anyone going to be absolutely perfect? Heck, no! Sooner or later, you are going to find some faults and then you must decide: Do I learn to live with them, or do I move on?

So here it goes: the IMperfect partner meme. Or "Let's Get Real!" List 5 imperfections that you find annoying but could or have learned to live with. These are NOT deal breakers but they are irritating and annoying. But if your 8 perfect characteristics were met, you could learn to put up with these.

Pass this on to 5 people. Preferably those with impossibly high standards.

I know many hate these things, but it is good (and cheap) way to increase traffic.

Once this one gets started, I'll post my own so you don't have to worry yourself tagging me back.

Victims…er…recipients:

1. Cinnamon

2. JeN

3. Confused Husband

4. Christine

5. Sie

D.


Bitch Slapped

January 28, 2006

Cinnamon tagged and bagged me with this one and since I see it making the rounds, I'm going to get it sooner or later. So we might as well take care of it here:

List 8 traits about your perfect partner, and have to tell if they are male or female. Then tag 8 other people to do this.

Why only 8? What's so magical about that? I actually did a top 10 list on this on my old blog. But I'll go from scratch.

These would be female traits, although looking at Cinnamon’s list, some are simply universal.

1. Passion, as in sensual, intellectual, emotional and spiritual. Actually that's almost 4 things in one, isn't it? Okay, I stole and refined it from C's list.

2. Earthy. I'm weary of the "Ewww Factor" and someone trying to create a synthetically sterile environment. But this also has to do with how they relate to nature and natural things. Don't go all homeopathic and Wiccan on me, just recognize the natural order of things. Bugs, animals and plants have their place. Maybe a farm background would be beneficial. Yeah, someone who has been shit on and can still finish their chores before cleaning up.

3. Mastery of the Madonna/whore thing. Be respectful in public, but get freaky in the bedroom. Don't be afraid of being naked around me in private. Be a tease in public.

4. Physical appearance: non extreme and confident. Average suits me just fine. All women struggle with insecurities about their appearance one way or another and this is okay as long as she's confident with me and my assessment that she's #1 and God's gift to her gender. And to me. Save the shame talk for your neurotic girlfriends. I know you have moles, a pouch and thighs. I love them.

5. Acceptance. Nothing kills intimacy faster that a feeling that you will be criticized all the time. Or at least be willing to work with me on it where we can work with each other. This also means that bit in the serenity prayer: the courage of accepting things we can't change.

6. Perseverance and tenacity. Work through things instead of quitting and giving up. The first part of the serenity prayer: Lord, grant me the strength to change the things I can.

7. Kiss me deeply, passionately and often. And let me do the same.

8. Laugh with me.

While doing this, I actually came up with a companion meme of my own. Pay back is hell, isn't it Cinnamon?;-)

Okay, I'm supposed to bitch slap…er..tag 8 other people with this. Okay…

1. Dewdrop! Ooohh Dewwdrop! I'm sincerely interested in what you have to say on this. And I also know you will take it in the spirit its been given!LOL!

How about some different folks?

2. Summer Rose – Give us (and maybe CH) a clue as to what you're looking for.

3. So Gone – List the 8 and then let us know how BF stacks up.

4. Pretty Peanut – After that HNT, I'm sure I'm not the only guy who is wondering!

5. Cassee – Need to get to know you better!

The last three don't have blogs of their own (yet), so they can answer here or start their own blogs with this one:

6. Broccoli Eater

7. Emily

8. Rob – the token male!

The good news is that you 8 will be exempted from my next round, unless you want to get in on it.

D.


Leela’s Tag

December 22, 2005

Okay, Leela tagged me with this annoying little gem:

Here are the rules; the first player of this game starts with the topic. Five weird habits of yourself and people who get tagged need to write an entry about their five weird habits as well as state this rule clearly. In the end, you need to choose the next five people to be tagged and link to their web journals. Don’t forget to leave a comment in their blog or journal that says “You are tagged” (assuming they take comments) and tell them to read yours.So here we go…….


Okay, when it comes to habits, I have a truckload. I am a creature of habit, because I have severe emotional and behavioral disturbances which effect how I move throughout my day. Okay, maybe not severe. Just a pretty bad personality disorder. Being a full-time condescending prick taxes a body's ability to think fluidly. Scripting and habits are how I compensate.

1.) I have a pretty bad memory sometimes therefore my wallet, my keys, and my watch always, always always get put in the same spots. Keys on the hook, watch and wallet on the desk. When I go to work, pens and important papers are in a standard spot. Always. I seem to attract spouses and coworkers who spend half their day looking for stuff (car keys) that they just threw somewhere and have no idea where. I'm dogmatic, but at least I know where my stuff is.

2.) Many of my coworkers think I give sage advice about life. I'm mostly scripting from Gladiator, Shawshank Redemption, and the older Star Trek reruns. It's easier to recite lines from these than actually try to think up original thoughts of my own. Some of you have caught me, but since you all are fans of those movies/shows, you need to be careful lest you be implicated in terminal nerd-hood.

3.) I am a nail biter. It isn't just the biting, it is the chewing of the nail I enjoy. Those shavers make handy, dandy tooth picks in a tight spot. Hey, you asked.

4.) My pens and pencils are easily identifies by deep, penetrating teethmarks. I bit and chew on pens and pencils with reckless abandon. We're talking some serious chomping going on. But it does cut down on those who like to ask to use my pen because they misplaced theirs.

5.) Pens, pencils, small screw drivers, nail shavings, nails, screws…any of these objects are suitable for use as impromptu dental instruments for the scraping and removal of plaque and tarter. If I am not chewing, I am scraping.

Hmm, notice how many of these habits revolve around oral fixations?

Name only 5 habits? Shoot, I never even got to the nose picking or the thing with the ear wax…

Oh well.

I HATE tagging people, but I'm in a mood to annoy some people, so it's time to do some tagging:

Square1: Merry Christmas, sweetheart!

FTN: Charles Dickens came back from the grave and told me to do it because Paris Hilton picture was the only cast member who didn't get a photo in his story and it was the only reason he bothered reading it at all after finding it by doing a google search. Sorry.

Rob: He probably won't do it because he never blogs anything. But it's the thought that counts, right? I can't leave a comment at his place, because he has yet to post his first entry. But it's worth a shot.

Dewdrop: Because I really do like her, despite her LL ways. And she's making a good go of it. I give credit where credit is due. Wish I could give her that elusive orgasm, too…

O272: A new interest of mine, so we'll give her a go at this. And since she's PMS'ing right now, there should be some interesting responses!LOL!

Shoot, I was worried I wouldn't be able to find 5 people to tag.

Any of the rest of you up for some serious groping?

D.