This is one long-ass book!
Finally, in chapter 12, Schnarch reveals so tools for getting through the crucible. I’m not going to retype them all or even give a reaction to them. He goes into different levels of differentiation as well as how to self-soothe.
It’s this chapter that has the hiking story that Val commented on earlier. He does go a long way to be as fair as possible in describing how his wife being slower caused him problems with dealing with himself. He also shares the story of how his wife’s and his move to Colorado put them on the brink of divorce! He then goes into why he included those stories.
The tips and techniques are helpful and I suppose the reason he didn’t include those earlier on was because he was keen on someone reading most of the book before trying them. Still, I’m convinced this thing is put together backwards..