It’s that time of the year, again!
I was actually a bit surprised that Arwyn brought up our anniversary earlier in the week, asking me what I wanted to do. I had no idea, really. Well, that’s not right. I did have an idea and you can guess what it was more or less.
But Arwyn was not talking about that. She proposed that we might go out for dinner or something. That sounded nice until she mentioned taking the kids along. Ummm, no. That’s not at all what I had in mind.
Her and I were both massively busy with work all week. The night before our anniversary, I gave her some money to buy milk and some fruit. She did get milk but no fruit. Instead she bought a card and an anniversary present; a fireproof safe box to keep valuable papers and stuff in. She was a bit put off that I wasn’t overly massively thrilled with this. Okay, it’s practical. But I’m not sure it says “Happy Anniversary!” you know?
The next night I gave her a musical card with a Cars theme song, and thanking her for a very scenic ride. Her card was as nonromantic and generic as you could get. But she made an effort. I also got a new TV as our old one went kaput a month or so ago. She did enjoy that as well as some office supplies I got her so she wouldn’t have to be always devouring mine.
That night she slept on the couch I think, as she didn’t go to bed until much later than me.
And that was the entire extent of an 11 year celibation. I think the last time we had sex on our anniversary was back on our 1st, when we rented a hotel by the beach. She was pregnant on our second and wasn’t in the mood and then had a baby to take care of in subsequent years. You can sort of get the picture. While there was enough sex in subsequent years to have a second child, there never was as much as there was before we were married.
Hmph. Not much of an update, is it? I’m not pushing for the time being. I’m getting other areas girded up for whatever may follow, namely the financial side. We are seriously close to ticking off a second Big Payment item that was sucking down $300 a month. Namely it was that old $10,000 Visa debt that Arwyn racked up in 2004. And the car insurance. I’ll then begin seriously biting into that second property mortgage which should fall within the next 12 months if I stay focused, freeing up another $330 a month. Retiring all of these debts is tremendously liberating. Other options begin opening up as far as saving, investing, charitable giving, and helping others. I could do none of those things when I was so enslaved to hundreds of dollars in credit card and vehicle payments.
Lifting that weight can do nothing but help Arwyn and I no matter where we end up next.
That post below was written over a week ago and just never got published, so you get a bonus today!