Finally! The conclusion of this series on the completed Emotional Needs Questionnaire. Stay tuned for some drama on this thing. I’ve been avoiding it but can do so no more.
Unless I can find a way to confront while also avoiding. Maybe a letter or an email…
Harley defines admiration as respecting, valuing and appreciating you clearly and often. I rate my need for admiration on the 0-6 scale at a 4, which is somewhat of a great need. Not as high as affection or sex, but it is a definite emotional need of mine. When thinking about how often, I think! 1x a day shouldn’t be asking too much. Is it? If my indicated frequency is not met, it makes me feel somewhat unhappy. Certainly unappreciated.
When I rate Arwyn’s level of admiration for me, I give it a -1 on the -3 to +3 scale. I’m a little dissatisfied and this is because there is more contempt that comes across than anything. I’ve been using my blogger version of this site to talk a bit about one of my other self-growth endeavors which is weight loss and exercise. Instead of supporting and admiring my efforts at losing weight, eating better, quitting smoking and working out, she has been negative and complaining. She hates the DDR music because it is oriented towards the fast dance genre with a severely heavy beat. So she complains about the music being too loud or will stay on the computer longer or put the boys on it so I can’t use it to work out. She’s been a scoffer since I ordered the dance pad.
She spent years complaining about my smoking and cited that as the reason she didn’t want any deep kissing and a turn-off from sex. Both patent lies.
So my self-improvement gains have been despite Arwyn’s attitude and not because of her support or admiration.
I think I’m ready for another Stepmania update where I’ll extend this just a bit more.
Actually there might be one more entry on this series, as I do have to rate my top 5 emotional needs. And there’s one that I have that didn’t even make Harley’s list. But I’ll let y’all guess on that for awhile. Plus that gives me another excuse to avoid some confrontation.