Some how, some way I feel like I have a pinched nerve in my lower back and have had it for a few days. Sitting for too long gets uncomfortable, so thank goodness for my PDA where I can read and write while reclining. Unfortunately that means I rarely get to comment as much as I want, not that I was ever too good about that.
But having a pinched nerve perfectly illustrates the difference between those with low libidos vs. those with high libido. To a LL person, sex with such a condition would be absolutely out of the question. It would only make the pain and the condition worse and probably result in a permanent disability. They would surely invoke the “sickness” clause of the marriage vow as in “in sickness and in health.”
However, as a relative HL, my view is much different. While an orgasm isn’t exactly a cure, it is certainly a source of short term relief from many, many ailments and back pain is a major one. Seriously, I’ve felt my vertebrae pop back into place during some particularly good orgasms. Stress and fatigue will bring the pain back eventually, but the relaxation brought on by some good sex can treat a host of ills. It is pleasant, invigorating and relaxing.
So if you are trying to see whether a perspective partner is HL or LL, see how they are when they are sick or in pain. There are many instances when a body really is too sick for sex. Certain pains and aches will dampen enthusiasm. But a willingness to explore sex as a treatment option might be viewed as a positive HL indicator.
Just a thought.
Oh, and Happy New Year, btw!