More on the Health of Sex

December 20, 2005

12/20/2005

Tuesday

Always Aroused Girl took off on my query about the relationship between sex and health and something she said made me examine the issue even more closely. Perhaps a case study would help.

Kellie was a girl who was extraordinarily sexual and sensual. Whenever she walked into a room, she was accompanied by clouds of steam emanating from a shrt body that was neither slim nor firm. Her sexiness was all about her attitude. At some point, she took a real liking to me and since I wasn’t dating anyone else, it was also convenient.

Kellie was not gorgeous in s conventional sense but she was attractive in her own way magnified by a sexy attitude. She might be driving me and some friends somewhere on a hot day and she would do the taking-the-bra-off-under-the-shirt thing and fling it back in my face. All while driving. She loved to give backrubs. She loved good, strong hugs.

She had hung out at my place a time or two, and things had gotten hot and heavy more than once. Oh yes, I had done her a time or two, but had not climaxed with her. Yeah, that was me. Mr. 90 Seconds used to be able to hang on for as long as it took to get her off, then put his clothes back on and send her home. It was still pleasurable, make no mistake. It was HOT. But I didn’t cum inside her and I can’t tell you exactly why.

Until one weekend, when she was house sitting for her grandmother. Kellie became what I can only describe as deathly ill on Friday. I took care of her, getting her food, medicine, holding her up while she drank sips of water. She had terrible fits of coughing, was stuffy and was just wiped out all day Saturday. So I cared for her, and that had an erotic feel of its own. Kellie was a very strong-willed person who was quite independent. But she let me care for her, trusting me and allowing me to play that role that was a new and novel doorway to intimacy.

Saturday night, she was coughing and I got up to get her some water, and came over to her bed. She sipped it, and then after spilling some of it, she belessed me out as only she could do. I was doing the best I could. I held her and hugged her and kissed her. It wasn’t long before my inner flame ignited. I opened up my bathrobe, slipped her panties off her and she helped kick them off. I slid inside of her and it just felt better. It felt safe and natural being inside of her. She might have coughed once, which really exercises the PC muscles. But I stroked and pumped and came inside of her for the first time. She made some snarky comment, “Geez, now I suppose you’ll want to spend the whole night in my bed!” You would just have to know her to understand it. I went back to wherever it was I was sleeping.

Next morning, we went to church together, and I commented on how much better she seemed to be feeling.

“Yeah, you’re right! I DO feel alot better! I am really glad that you finally came inside of me last night. Maybe you have some sort of magic elixir in that stuff of yours!”

We had a good laugh. Kellie and I subsequently parted ways.

Early in my marriage I did have a chance to test this out again. Arwyn’s nose always cleared up after a good bout of sex. But she steadfastly refused to acknowledge the correlation. Now she is chronically sick. Coincidence? I don’t think so.

At least one commenter disagreed with me citing her higher libido husband was usually sick more, and there is certainly room for individual variation. I’m not saying it will always work. But can it hurt?

There is enormous healing power in human touch. Some hospitals even have volunteers come in to massage and touch premature infants citing research that these babys thrive better when they are touched more often. It’s hard for me to argue with the evidence my own body registers when Arwyn and I are more physically connected.

Children and infants need to be handled in order to thrive, so this tends to support my belief that more and better sex promotes better physical health rather than sex being a passive sign of good health. As C-Marie said, the body releases endorphins which help the body combat illnesses. And it just feels good!

D.