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By: Index to my “Schnarch” Posts « Reality & Redemption

Index to my “Schnarch” Posts « Reality & Redemption — Tue, 29 Jan 2008 16:16:10 +0000

[...] 12. Our own breakthrough [...]

By: Inching Forward « Reality & Redemption

Inching Forward « Reality & Redemption — Sun, 27 Jan 2008 21:39:12 +0000

[...] that there might be a rebound effect as I began looking for the sex to happen. (Thanks Emily for suggesting I NOT think about it thus ensuring that I think about it more!;-) But we’ve been so long without it, [...]

By: diggerjones

diggerjones — Sun, 27 Jan 2008 21:24:02 +0000

Thank you all for the positive thoughts! The good news is that we’re still at work. It’s not easy, but it never has been as I’ve been working through it I think future trips into the crucible will be less traumatic.

By: Katie

Katie — Sun, 27 Jan 2008 20:33:42 +0000

Woot! Two words: keep talking.

By: sixdegrees

sixdegrees — Sat, 26 Jan 2008 18:19:49 +0000

I’ll stand in line with the jaw-droppers. That was a major, major conversation and it covered a lot of ground. Thanks for sharing it, as it gives me pause to think and reflect about my marriage relationship.

By: Emily

Emily — Sat, 26 Jan 2008 01:36:54 +0000

ps My apologies for getting into an argument with XH rather than picking up on the personal issues you were trying to bring up on that post

By: Emily

Emily — Sat, 26 Jan 2008 01:35:37 +0000

I am truly pleased for you, Digger. You are putting the work and the self-reflection and the humility in, and learning a lot and it is paying off.

Only one tip from me: Don’t make it all about the sex at this early stage. Sex matters, there is no doubt. But if your sex life is going to recover, you and Arwyn really need to keep learning to appreciate each other as people, friends and lovers, first.

But truly, big hugs and congratulations from me

Emily xox

By: Cat

Cat — Fri, 25 Jan 2008 20:12:56 +0000

Wow I am with Desmond on the mouth falling open thing but I am also very happy for you. What a positive conversation and it seems as if you are moving in a very positive direction in your marriage. Congrats, sincerely…It takes a lot to acknowledge not only what someone has done to you but what you have done to them and then go about trying to change things for the better.

By: FTN

FTN — Fri, 25 Jan 2008 16:25:37 +0000

That’s great, Digger! Yay for positive conversations! The best ones happen when you least expect it, don’t they?

I truly hope that both of you follow up on this, and it’s not just a one-time thing that is soon forgotten.

By: Desmond Jones

Desmond Jones — Fri, 25 Jan 2008 15:32:43 +0000

Holy shit, Digger. My jaw is in its full, unlocked and dragging on the floor position; this makes me want to check the weather report for Hell, ‘cuz obviously, it’s frozen over. . .

I sincerely congratulate you and Arwyn; this is nothing short of amazing. I realize that there’s a lot of work between here and where you really want to be, but this is the most amazing breakthrough I could have imagined (to be perfectly candid, I would not have imagined it, either). Wishing you both well; I’ll be praying for you. . .