Vicarious Living

08/20/2005

Saturday

Day 8

3 more days

Oh yes, I am counting down the days! It has been hot, too hot, to be confined like I’ve been. But short of using bolt cutters, I’m sort of stuck with it. Arwyn and the boys went out with a friend of hers who has a boy between the ages of my two today. So I’ve had some spare time on my hands that better could have been spent wanking away. But, instead I did some grocery shopping, some dishes and am doing a bit of cooking. And blog readiing.

Glad to hear there are 2 or 3 folks who enjoy my frustration. That’s almost as good as marital angst. I suppose it’s what makes the chastity theme work. Women (they seem to leave the most comments) can wonder how their lives might be improved by having their men locked up and live it vicariously through me! Guys don’t say as much because they probably know that their outlook would be profoundly altered. Women, being wired differently, are seriously curious as to why having a cock under lock would do the things I claim it does.

It’s a known fact guys live and die by their cocks. Control the cock and you control him. Not just his behaviors and his sex life but his thoughts as well. When he has but one source of release, his eye is fixed on that source. The bond and the control is tightened by the judicious use of tease and denial. Keep him aroused and you keep his attention. And the longer he’s locked the easier it is to keep him aroused. Just whisper in his ear and he’s glued. You wouldn’t even have to whisper…just breathe.

I can imagine that a number of you could have fun with it once you got your minds around it. To some extent, I sometimes feel the effort is wasted on the unappreciative Arwyn. I would be more than happy to spend more time in more often if she made the experience just a bit more worthwhile. Let me see her naked once in awhile, wear something a tad sexier and behave in just a bit of a more relaxed nature. Afterall, it isn’t sex. The threat is lifted for a time so cut loose a bit. Let me touch and taste while locked up. Explore, direct and assert.

It’s basically what I’m doing. Being locked up doesn’t make me more docile. In fact, in some ways I might be more assertive, but I am definitely more tempered. Those qualities would easily be magnified with some participation.

Hmmm. That gives me an idea.

Stay tuned.

D.

Not much Angst

08/19/2005

Friday

Day 7

I originally had things set up to unlock today, however I extended the time for another 3 or 4 days. Debating on whether or not to extend more. There are times when I could easily do it, but other times when I really want out. The early morning wake-ups are such times, when the cage is pulling and pinching. Then it would be nice to get out and get some relief. The closer I get to release time, the harder it gets to extend. On the other hand, I can see that a week isn’t really all that long, anymore. If I don’t do it this time out, next time is definitely starting at 10 days with whatever extensions I add early on. A new record is definitely in the works before the year’s out.

Arwyn’s participation is still of the more passive variety. I can feel myself getting drawn closer to her as time goes on. Past experience tells me that there is a limit to this, but those limits need to be explored further. I’m still pretty self-indulgent, spending too much time on the computer at night, while Arwyn turns in extremely early. That doesn’t help things at all. Perhaps more time in the cage is warranted to see if I can modify this behavior. I could use some more sleep, anyway, so turning in earlier would be beneficial.

Indeed, something Jay said in one of his comments got me thinking. If Arwyn insists on sleeping with her head at the foot of the bed, what’s to stop me from doing the same? Well, right now the cage does work against that. A few nights ago we did happen to kiss and cuddle for an extremely short time and I was up and down for the rest of the night with hardness and frustration. There was some kissing and cuddling this morning that I initiated that kept me semi-aroused for the rest of the morning. Just thinking about it now, gets me going.

I’ve mentioned before how it is possible for me to look at Arwyn and feel love towards her. Not all the time, but much of the time, cage or none. While in chastity, those feelings are intensified. In fact, the sound of her breathing at night and the sound of her voice when she talks become draws under these conditions.

Sorry the story itself isn’t moving along very much. At least there isn’t the negative drama. Negative drama and angst does attract a lot of readership and comments but doesn’t do much for the marriage.

D.